"Diana"

                                      We say that "Truth HURTS" ...  

                      "The remembered image is not only benign, however;  [She can be] "the bad mother too---(1) the absent unattainable mother, against whom aggressive fantasies are directed, and from whom a counter-aggression is feared:   (2)  The hampering, forbidding, punishing mother;  (3) the mother who would hold to herself the growing child trying to push away; (4) the desired but forbidden mother whose presence is a lure to dangerous desire persists in the hidden lad of the adult child's recollections and is sometimes a greater force  ."

                        So now one word :  "She who MUST BE Obeyed .